Comments on: Dealing With Rejection

By: Jade Park

Jade Park — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 07:09:04 +0000

Complicated/perfect storm. I’ll tell you about it offline.

By: Rejected « Writing Under a Pseudonym

Rejected « Writing Under a Pseudonym — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 06:31:28 +0000

[...] friend at Writerland write a post titled “Dealing With Rejection”. It is a timely post, at least for me, because even though I’m always dealing with rejection [...]

By: Meghan Ward

Meghan Ward — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 06:23:26 +0000

Jade: I totally agree that it just takes time. By the way, I just ate WAY too much chocolate, but not because of rejection but because it was so damn good. What rejection are you dealing with today, by the way? A short story submission?

By: Jade Park

Jade Park — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 06:10:19 +0000

ok. i failed on the chocolate front: i had a handful of hershey’s kisses. they were irresistible. i spent the day feeling sorry for myself, despite running and going for a walk. i think dealing with rejection is like dealing with heartbreak: there’s only so much you can do to deal…mostly, you just have to let the heartbreak wash over you.

By: Erika

Erika — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 22:16:47 +0000

Hi Meghan. I really appreciated your blog entry. I used to act and go to several auditions a week and if I landed a gig once a month I too was doing well. It feels so different with writing. After I send a query off I wish I could just forget about it. I’ve gotten so close to landing a publisher for this anthology and then the rug gets pulled out from under me. What’s hardest is mustering up the energy to resubmit again. Community helps a lot and reading postings like yours too. Thanks for sharing. Warm hugs

By: Meghan Ward

Meghan Ward — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 18:30:53 +0000

Jackie, good for you for taking things into your own hands. Self-publishing does sound incredibly empowering!

Jade, I’m sorry about your neck. I hope the rest and Advil helped. I am about to go jogging right now, although it’s the last thing I feel like doing. Hang in there!

By: Jade Park

Jade Park — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 22:01:21 +0000

timely post, Meghan. I’m dealing with it by psychically feeling sorry for myself and physically feeling my neck lock up. i plan on resting, taking an advil, then going for a jog, and keeping my fingers crossed. if i feel psychically horrible from rejections, i’ll focus on my physical health. one balances the other.

and…i *will* stay away from chocolate.

By: Jacquelyn Wheeler

Jacquelyn Wheeler — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 08:13:58 +0000

Great post! I only sent out about fifteen queries, and after not hearing back on some and getting canned rejections on the rest, I said to hell with the whole thing and self-published. I’ve been really, really happy with my decision. So I’d add that as item k in your list: give the finger to the whole traditional publishing model and explore the incredible opportunities that are available for getting your book out there now instead of waiting for someone else’s approval. It’s very empowering!

By: Meghan Ward

Meghan Ward — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:56:57 +0000

Aditi, I agree that it could apply to anything, especially c – and chocolate, of course!

And Stephanie, great idea! Please do keep the music up for me since I can’t play it very loud in my own house (with one of the munchkins usually sleeping).

By: Stephanie Denise Brown

Stephanie Denise Brown — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:56:30 +0000

This is such a great post! I’m going to print your list out and tape it on the wall next to my printer. I think you’ve made some excellent suggestions.

One way I deal with rejection is by playing some music. I play it as loud as my neighbors can stand it–AND THEN, I sing along at the top of my lungs. I love playing U2 to make me feel better. There’s just something about Bono’s voice on certain songs, particularly the track “Pride”–love it! Music is a great salve.

I know your manuscript will be picked up very soon and I’m looking forward to buying a copy when it’s published. Until then, I’ll keep the music up for us all.